Tuesday, 19 June 2012

Solution refocussed

I went on a training course last week about a way of working with challenging young people, based on a solution-focussed approach. There were delegates from all over the north of England, all working in different capacities with these challenging young people.

The morning was very interesting, a Texan explained how the scheme had been set up, and the rationale behind it, and presented some very interesting data.

The afternoon session was a quick run through a solution-focussed interview to support someone in managing positive personal change. This is an approach I use everyday as part of my role. We were paired up to do a role play, I took the role of the interviewer, and a lovely lady the interviewee. She had never come across this approach before. As we went through it and reflected upon it she was very excited about how asking the right thinking question can help guide someone to making that positive change.

The session made me really think and reflect upon my personal practice, but also on the universal truth about human behaviours: How often do we redo something, without thinking, without reflection? How often do we sit back and actually re-coach and re-frame our beliefs?

If I said "Hello" and then held out my hand you would shake it, automatically, because that is what we have trained ourselves to do, in short it is a muscle memory, a repeated action that has become automatic.

Our brains have this kind of auto response too, we react that way because we always react that way. Some of the basic principles are: 

  • If it ain't broke: don't fix it
  • If it doesn't work: try something else!
  • If you do what you have always done you will always get what you have always got.
So, what positive change do you need to make? What would you like to fix and make better? Start by identifying the place you want to be, and then work out a plan, a route of how to get there. I know it is scary, but if you don't take that step you will never know how bright it is at your destination. Think about what you are doing and why you are doing it. Make that decision to change.

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